How This Works
When you experience a significant challenge in your life, like a divorce, a breakup, the loss of a loved one, abuse, health complications, job loss, or any major crisis, it’s easy to feel like you’re stuck.
Grief, pain, and loss can manifest in many different ways. Here are just a few examples of how your grief might be affecting your behaviors and emotions:
You isolate yourself from family, friends, and loved ones—because they think you should be “over it” by now, and they would judge you if they knew you still feel sad, broken, and empty.
You numb the pain with self-sabotaging behaviors, like overspending, overeating, or overindulging in Netflix, social media, sex, or alcohol.
You do everything for everyone else, because “people pleasing” and working overtime distracts you from having to face your own feelings.
You lose sight of your goals, dreams, and passions, which only makes your anxiety, insecurity, and fears about the future worse.
You blame yourself for what happened, and constantly question the decisions you made and obsess over what you could have done differently.
You feel helpless, powerless, and defeated, and you don’t know how the hell you’re supposed to move on with your life from here.
I know it might seem impossible right now to imagine getting past this period of grief, pain, and fear, but I’m here to tell you: It is absolutely possible to bounce forward into a fulfilling life!
How This Works
All you need to rewrite your story is a desire to change.
Listen: I know what it’s like to be stuck. I was there. After the man I loved and the father of my children was murdered, I didn’t want people to know how deeply I was struggling. To make matters worse, everyone around me questioned what was taking me so long to “get over” it.
We were taught that when something challenging happens in life, you put it in a box, push it aside, and get on with your life. Well, I call bullsh*t! You can’t just “get over” it. Because what happened to you, changed you. And that’s OK!
The beautiful thing is, you can use the challenges you experienced to rewrite your life story.
You can enjoy the single life and embrace the journey to a new romance, all while feeling FULL of self-love and confidence along the way.
You can build a community of people around you who make you feel safe—friends, loved ones, a romantic partner—because you not only learned how to trust again, but you learned the importance of forgiveness.
You can find a career or a job that recognizes your value and worth, and gives you a sense of belonging and importance in your role.
You can honor the love you had for someone by grieving them in a healthy way.
You can rediscover the joy of chasing your dreams, pursuing your passions, and creating a new normal that is even better than what you had before.